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Relationship Counseling
(Couples, Marriage, Domestic Partners, De-Coupling)Relationship Tune-Up - *Practice Specialty*
"Does your relationship need just a few adjustments to take you the distance? There are road-tested ways to improve your mileage."
Relationships don't just happen, they are built day after day through each person's words and actions. You can build it thoughtfully and skillfully, or operate on automatic pilot. Which do you want to for one of the most important connections you will ever have?
A truly satisfying relationship takes effort to create and sustain. Most of us have picked up some unehlpful ideas along the way, rather than useful skills for managing differences and conflict. I will work with you to bring a basically good relationship to the next highest level of fulfillment.
Marriage Preparation
Relationship Enrichment
"The average cost of a wedding is $30,000. You owe it to yourselves to spend less than 2% of that towards making all of the following days as happy as possible."
"A good thing can always be made better."
The early years together are times of intense change and discovery. It's natural to assume love will provide all the guidance needed. However, every relationship has at least a couple of issues that will tend to come up again and again. A little collaboration can help the two of you figure out how to best negotiate the trickier aspects of your differences.
Several years into a relationship, and you are noticing some patterns that are getting in the way of having the relationship you dreamed of. I can show you how to renew your zest for each other's company. Through activities of proven effectiveness, you will explore and develop deeper intimacy together.
Prepare/Enrich is a computerized inventory of major relationship areas. It identifies strengths and weaknesses in a couple's relationship. This is one of the most widely used programs in the country, with five modules covering the range from premarital counseling through marriage enrichment. Most couples say this is a great tool to help them have important and/or difficult conversations. (Completing this program qualifies you for a discount on your marriage license.)
Relationship Counseling
"Many couples wait six years before seeking help when their marriage has a problem (based on research). You wouldn't expect your car to run for six years if it developed a grinding noise, why should your relationship have to wait for help?"
You're a smart person, but you're bewildered by your relationship. Kindness, loving feelings, and respect have dissolved into frustration, feeling unappreciated, anger. You're resentful about your partner's lack of understanding--after all, it shouldn't be that hard to get your point, should it? And yet, nothing seems to change and the two of you are having the same argument for (what feels like) the millionth time. You might feel trapped in a cycle of negative words and actions. How can you and your partner get unstuck when it seems you've tried everything?
I help smart people untangle and resolve the upsetting problems in their committed relationship. Using proven methods for the degree and type of conflict present, I will do my best to help you achieve your goals for the relationship.
And if your spouse/partner/mate doesn't want to attend counseling? I can meet with you individually and help you discover what changes you can undertake that will foster change in the relationship.
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