Discernment CounselingDiscernment Counseling is for couples who are on the brink of ending their relationship, but not entirely sure if divorce or splitting up is the right path. If you want to take one more thorough look before making such a decision with such long-term consequences, then Discernment Counseling might be helpful to you and your partner.
Whether you’re the one “leaning in” or “leaning out”, I’ll honor your perspective and help you reach a deeper understanding of the relationship and its problems. The goal of Discernment Counseling is to determine whether the problems can be solved. There are 3 possible outcomes: move towards ending the relationship, work on restoring your commitment to health, or stay the course and decide later.
Sessions are divided between meeting together as a couple and individual conversations with each spouse/partner. Most of the time is spent in the individual conversations because each person is on a personal journey of discernment and action. I’ll help each partner to see his or her contributions to the problems and explore the possible solutions. Understanding yourself in a marriage is important for success in future relationships, even if the relationship/marriage ends.
This is a brief approach with a very specific goal, and as such it helps to put a cap on the process. We’ll meet for 1.5-2 hour sessions and can meet for up to 5 sessions. This is usually enough time and exploration to come to a decision, and longer can lead to going in circles. Remember, the two of you can always decide to put any decision on hold for a period of time.
I welcome and support all consensual adult relationships.